Comments on Homosexuality
As I begin to address this topic, I’m asking myself…… why? Why do you feel compelled to address such a controversial and inflammatory topic? Why am I attempting to speak about a topic, the subject of which, as a heterosexual, I obviously have no inside information on, nor personal insight into. Honestly I really don’t know why I feel compelled to do so, … but I do …. and so … here I go.
I also know I risk the wrath and ire of many, if not most of my heterosexual friends and the dismissal of many of my homosexual friends and acquaintances because of incorrect or inadequate insight.
First of all, the term itself, “homosexual”, congers up so many inflammatory emotions in so many people. I thought about listing all the derogatory terms colloquially used, but decided against it and ask you to supply your own individual list. Currently the two most accepted terms are gay and lesbian.
Why is it, when we are newly introduced to an individual we are told is gay or lesbian, the first image that enters our mind is of that individual in “the sex act”? You don’t? Well, perhaps it’s just me. When we newly meet someone, their sexual preference not referenced, we naturally assume they are heterosexual (like us – safe) and we rarely, if ever envision that individual in “the sex act”.
Why does “the sex act” singularly define homosexuals, and all their other endeavors and achievements take a distant second place to that?
Perhaps, I concede, it is because many assume cross-gender mannerisms. Some homosexual males affect feminine mannerisms. Likewise some lesbians take on markedly masculine dress and mannerisms. It’s obvious and disconcerting.
So let’s get to the nut cuttin’ as we say in the south.
In spite of tacit acceptance in the recent past, and amid and among the more liberal among us, homosexuality is distained. It’s frowned upon. It is considered a perversion. In Christian theology, in its most generous and benign condemnation considers it is unnatural. Since we are currently in discussions about the relative tolerances of Islam, this discipline considers it an intolerable abomination.
Now I ask you to harken back to all the colloquial terms you have used and been informed by regarding homosexuals. Likewise, I ask you to revisit your religious teachings and beliefs as relates to the subject and tell me why your think anyone would voluntarily subject him/her self to such distain, religious rejection and public ridicule such a choice would inflect on oneself?
Honestly! I can’t imagine making such a choice. They don’t live “in the closet” because they love the claustrophobic dark. I can’t imagine anyone freely making such a choice because they like societies’ rejection and ostracism. Just how much ridicule is one person able to tolerate to satisfy a “sexual appetite”?
All of which leads me to conclude, with no scientific or logical support what-so-ever : It is not a choice!
I’ve heard of many homosexuals that state, “I knew I was different as a child.” Now, that in and of itself, doesn’t prove anything. I know that! And, once again I state: I’m not trying to convince anyone, much less everyone, to agree and see this as I do. I am merely, outlining the thought processes by which I have arrived at my conclusion.
Aiding me in this conclusion is my limited and now aging scientific education. And without getting too technical, most all have at least a rudimentary knowledge of DNA, chromosomes, the egg (ovum) and sperm and the process of fertilization. But suffice it to say, it is a quite complicated and miraculous process, fraught with millions of opportunities for things to go awry. In fact, if you delve deeply into the process, you will conclude as I, the birth of a “normal” baby is beyond miraculous, yet it happens millions of times each year.
To underscore the miraculous nature of the process, I invite you to look up mitosis and meiosis at the Wikipedia website and read just far enough that you become overwhelmed.
If during any phase of the process, something does go wrong we end up with a birth defect, some minor, some much more severe. “While still in the womb, some babies have problems with how their organs and body parts form, how they work, or how their bodies turn food into energy. These health problems are called birth defects. There are more than 4,000 different kinds of birth defects. According to the March of Dimes, l out of every 33 babies born in the United States has a birth defect. If a baby is born with a part of the body that is missing or malformed, it is called a structural birth defect. When there is a problem with the baby’s body chemistry, it is called a metabolic birth defect.” — KidsHealth at http://kidshealth.org
You can find examples and descriptions of each type at the above referenced website, under “Birth Defects”.
While I believe all of society understands how these two types of birth defects can occur and accepts the fact that they in fact do occur.
I will also go so far as to state, only the most crass and uninformed among us, will blame the child for these errors in the creative process. But while we may not blame the child and resultant individual, sadly some societies and some of us in our society, reject the individual, and ostracize them in myriad ways.
Now, for the next step in this line of thinking.
If you accept the reality of physical and metabolic birth defects and have even a limited grasp of how complicated the pre-delivery developmental process is, I ask: Is it inconceivable that things can go wrong in the process of pre-delivery sexual development?; creating sexual birth defects if you will.
Now, before my homosexual friends, relatives and acquaintances get up in arms over referring to homosexuality as a birth defect – bear with me as I develop this line of thinking.
In addition to all the complicated apparatus involved in cell-division, cellular specialization and organ development, now add in the impact of hormones. Estrogen is generally conceded to be the “female hormone” and testosterone the “male hormone”.
Now add in the further complicating fact that:
All animals have a set of DNA coding for genes present on chromosomes. In humans, most mammals, and some other species[who?], two of the chromosomes, called the X chromosome and Y chromosome, code for sex. In these species, one or more genes are present on their Y-chromosome that determine maleness. In this process, an X chromosome and a Y chromosome act to determine the sex of offspring, often due to genes located on the Y chromosome that code for maleness. Offspring have two sex chromosomes: an offspring with two X chromosomes will develop female characteristics, and an offspring with an X and a Y chromosome will develop male characteristics.
This interesting set of circumstances has led me to declare, “There is no such thing as masculinity, only varying degrees of “absence of femininity”. I know…….quite a stretch and certainly unsubstantiated, but can you see why I’d say that?
Human male XY chromosomes after G-banding
In humans, a single gene (SRY) present on the Y chromosome acts as a signal to set the developmental pathway towards maleness. Presence of this gene starts off the process of virilization. This and other factors result in the sex differences in humans. The cells in females, with two X chromosomes, undergo X-inactivation, in which one of the two X chromosomes is inactivated. The inactivated X chromosome remains within a cell as a Barr body.
Humans, as well as some other organisms, can have a chromosomal arrangement that is contrary to their phenotypic sex; for example, XX males or XY females (see androgen insensitivity syndrome). Additionally, an abnormal number of sex chromosomes (aneuploidy) may be present, such as Turner’s syndrome, in which a single X chromosome is present, and Klinefelter’s syndrome, in which two X chromosomes and a Y chromosome are present, XYY syndrome and XXYY syndrome. Other less common chromosomal arrangements include: triple X syndrome, 48, XXXX, and 49, XXXXX. – 1
1 – https//en.wikipedia.org/wiki/XY_sex.determinaiton_system
Are you not amazed and overwhelmed by the myriad possibilities for sexual identity foul-ups?
In addition to common homosexuality there is also: bestiality, paedophilia , transvestism, exhibitionism, trans-sexualism, frigidity and impotence, fetishism, sadism, and mashochism
If any and/or all of this is possible (and it is) during the fetal development process, how can we not be amazed by the miraculous set of circumstances that results in a “normal child”? And therefore how can you NOT BE SURPRISED when something slightly deviates from the norm in the sexual development and resultant sexual preference of a newborn?
Don’t call it a birth defect if you’re uncomfortable with that term, but as error-prone as someone out there may prove my thought process to be, currently for me, it pretty well eliminates the prospect of a person choosing homosexuality as their sexual identity preference.
Now I can seemingly contradict myself when I throw in the idea of bisexuality. And there is such a thing; individuals who desire, can perform with and enjoy sex with both genders. But again, given the complexities described above, isn’t this just another derivation or shading of the myriad possibilities that can result during this process of fetal development?
Therefore, if as a result of a flaw in this process, someone turns out to be homosexual, how can we fault them, deride them, and condemn them anymore than we can someone born with a cleft-pallet or spina-bifida?
I guess I conclude it is because of the prejudices we’ve all been taught from earliest childhood.
Certainly it is not “normal”. It is a deviation. The sex act between two same sex individuals is deviant. Now, here is where I lose all the homosexuals that have been with me up to now. Please bear with me, as I dig myself deeper and deeper into this quagmire!
Dictionar.com – Normal: conforming to the standard or the common type, usual, not abnormal, regular, natural
Meriam-Webster – Normal: a) according with, constituting or not deviating from a norm, rule or principle b) conforming to a type, standard or regular pattern
Google – Deviant: departing from usual or accepted standards, especially in social or sexual behavior.
Dictionary.com – Deviant: 1) deviating or departing from the norm, characterized by deviation
2) a person or thing that deviates or departs markedly from the accepted norm
Meriam-Webster – Deviant: different from what is considered to be normal or morally correct. Deviating especially from an accepted norm < deviant behavior
The male penis and the female vagina are specifically and uniquely, anatomically designed as a delivery system to bring the male sperm and the female ovum into immediate and intimate proximity for the sole and express purpose of propagating the human species. This is NORMAL!!!
Any other use of these two organs for sexual purposes or sexual gratification is ABNORMAL and DEVIANT from the norm.
The bold emphasis is not intended to be a condemnation. It is merely an application of the definition of the words normal and deviant.
Therefore by extension oral sex, anal sex or any type of sexual activity between heterosexual partners, even married heterosexual partners is deviant.
Now, next to the survival instinct, (and it can be argued I believe, they are one in the same) the sex drive is likely the strongest natural drive programed into the human genome. God intends us to perpetuate the species. And even though the sexual wiring and orientation may get crossed up during the fetal development, in most cases this strong sex drive persists, causing individuals attracted to the same sex to seek satisfaction for this drive. Just like heterosexuals!!
Therefore if they DO NOT choose this lifestyle, how can we – why do we condemn them? Because they’re not like us?? We do that often……………..don’t we??
Now, before all my homosexual friends and parents of homosexual offspring lift me on their shoulders and carry me off the field, I have at least two confessions to make:
- Given all that I have said up to now, I do have a problem with what I perceive as some aspects of society seemingly pushing homosexuality front and forward as an acceptable alternative lifestyle. I’m not really sure that circumstance really exists, but I feel it does and I can’t tell you exactly why I’m troubled by it, but I am.
- I also have difficulty with the idea of “marriage” between same sex partners. You can drag out all the arguments you want about shared benefits, etc. – I’m sorry I have difficulty with this on lots of levels.
- This is three instead of two – but I have difficulty with same-sex couples adopting children. No one knows the long-term impact this may have on the children. Perhaps there will be no negative impact……….I certainly don’t know, ….just being honest.
- I have difficulty with it. It often seems to me, a contrived effort to take on the trappings of normalcy. Forgive me.
There are none of us, no matter how much we may want to be free of them, that do not have some level of prejudices and bias’s that potentially cloud our judgement and inform our opinions. As broad-minded as I’d like to believe myself to be, I concede I have more than my share!
Once again, I remind my reader friends that have progressed this far into this post; I am not attempting to convince you to think like me. I’m not attempting to convince you I am right in my position. I am not entirely satisfied that I am correct in the science I use to support my belief. I am only trying to express to you why I believe as I do currently.
The conclusion and theological resolution of this is above my pay grade. I’m content to let God sort this out. I believe he loves all his creations, regardless of our spiritual, physical or sexual flaws! If he loves them, can’t we at least accept them as his creation?